Building Friendships Pageant Weekend


BE NICE!- How and Why to Build Relationships amidst Pageant Chaos

By Allie Brenner

“Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it.”

-Anais Nin

At Mrs. Arizona America, I was selected to receive the Mrs. Congeniality Award as elected by my peers. This, to me, overshadowed the honor of being 1st Runner Up. If I had to choose between the title of Mrs. Arizona America and Mrs. Congeniality, I would have to pause. In my lifetime, I have placed utmost importance on building relationships. In this karmic universe, one typically reaps what she sows a thousand times over. Building friendships and relationships doesn’t start overnight. It is up to you to proactively seek out commonalities and bonds with your fellow pageant sisters.

To kick off my last pageant weekend, I wrote each of my fellow contestants a handwritten note expressing my excitement over the impending festivities that we would all undertake together as a team, Mrs. Arizona America Class of 2012. In addition to my heartfelt sentiments, I also included a favorite quote: “Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” In addition to the note, I also included a small, rhinestone tiara key chain. Each of us was a winner in our own right.

You may be asking yourself, why on Earth would I try to befriend my competition? For me, pageants are about competing with myself; pageants are about being the very best me that I can be on a specific day at a given time. I take relationships very seriously and want to foster loving connections with everyone I meet who shares the same goals, ambitions, and passions as I do. Rarely do I get the opportunity to be immersed in a group of fun-loving, stylish, fitness-focused, charity-involved, amazing women. I do not take this opportunity lightly.

During pageant weekend I made sure to help others with the choreography for opening number, have enough double-sided tape to assist everyone with sashes, let girls borrow earrings, and lended an encouraging word during stressful times. It was in moments like these that I felt connected to my peers. I left the pageant with a dozen new friends. As Charlie Sheen would say, “winning, DUH.”